How to Stop Performing and Start Being – Getting ADHD Unmasked This Halloween
- Oct 29
- 1 min read
Many adults ADHD live behind invisible masks of politeness, productivity and compliance so worn that they forget who they really are. The nervous system pays the price.
In the article, you:
Explore how masking (constant performance and adapting to others) becomes a survival strategy beyond costumes especially for neurodivergent adults.
Understand how our nervous system (following Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory) plays into this: when we’re stuck in sympathetic (overdrive) or dorsal (shutdown) modes, authenticity get sidelined.
Understand the concept of fawning (trauma-informed people-pleasing) and how for ADHDers, the added layer of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) intensifies these patterns.
See actionable guidance to shift from coping via performance towards living from presence: honouring your body’s signals (yes feels light, no feels heavy), regulating before relating, honouring your rhythm, and choosing co-regulating company.
Invite reflection: This Halloween, the aim isn’t to rip off every mask but to distinguish the masks that once protected you from the ones now keeping you small. When your body feels safe to be seen, the audition ends, and you begin remembering your worth.
✨ Unmask the performance and return to presence. Please read my latest feature in Brainz Magazine.
Ready to drop the mask and reconnect with your most authentic self? You can book a complimentary consultation with me here, and let’s begin the journey from performance to presence.
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